Sometimes, especially as a teen, it feels like it's you against the world. It's like you're going through your own struggles blind and when you call out for help, there's no one there. Sometimes we just see through our tunnel vision of negativity, we feel as though no matter what we do, there's no one there when you call. There are times where it seems like I'm alone in the world. I call out, "Is anyone there?" and it's like no one answers. No one sees me, no one helps me, no one is with me. But is that really true?

As a part of the Peter Pan Diaries series, if you haven't been updated, here's a brief summary about what the mini-series is about:
The Peter Pan diaries is a mini-series covering the various struggles, ups and downs, and giving guidance on the teen years. The Peter Pan series is for the people out there that are growing up, mostly aimed at the young adult years, but how they might not necessarily be ready to grow up yet, almost like Peter Pan. They're meant to help make the transition a little bit easier and also allow me to give my personal experiences and my perspectives on some struggles and controversial topics regarding teen life and being a young adult. 



I think that we often plunge ourselves into this sea of negativity. We don't bother looking at the bright side because we're so focused by all of the bad in our lives. And sometimes, we need a little help in order to get out of that sea of negativity, a lifesaver, if you will. But the thing that we're never able to do is to admit that we need one. Maybe you look over at the person next to you, easily swimming through life, and feel bad for needing a helping hand, a lifesaver. It's not easy to admit that you might need someone to guide you through your struggles. I think that the number one reason why we're afraid that we're struggling is that we feel as though we're alone in our struggles, like we're alone in this sea of negativity, drowning in stress, depression, feelings of inadequacy, confusion, whatever it is that is plaguing you.

I've heard stories about people that have felt so alone, so confused, so sad, so worthless, that they end up hurting themselves. But the thing is that this can be stopped if we take a moment to talk about it. To offer help. Although we can't just take those feelings away in a moment's notice, we can ease them and work on making those struggles go away. However, the reason that a lot of these people turn to hurting themselves is due to the fact that their struggles are their struggles alone. It's nice to have a person to talk to about what you're going through. There have been some times that I've felt like I've been reaching out, trying to talk about my own personal struggles, but it feels like no one is there, like no one is listening. 

I have these moments all the time, where I kind of want people to ask me if I'm okay, but at the same time I know that if anyone was to ask me, I would lie and say that "I'm fine" even though I am absolutely not. I think that everyone tends to have these feelings in which we want someone to be there for us, but at the same time, it's difficult to open up. I get that. Sometimes it just feels like no one understands you. But the thing is that there are people out there that understand you. If everyone is too afraid to open up about their struggles, then how will you find someone to talk to, relate to, understand you?

The thing is that someone is there for you, whether you know it or not. Maybe it's a teacher. Maybe a friend. Maybe a family member. There are people out there that get it. And no matter what you're going through, you're never in it alone. As a teenager, I feel like it's so easy to feel alone, like no one gets you and no one is willing to try, but that's not true. There are people out there that want to help you and are there for you, but they don't always know that you might need help or that you feel alone. When you say, "Is anyone there?" you can't just whisper it and then walk away, claiming that no one cared enough to help you. This is on you to be willing to call out for a lifesaver, be willing to open up. If you're too afraid to call out, then how will people know that you're feeling the exact same way that they're feeling? This is just like the Peter Pan Diaries. In order for me to reach people, I have to be willing to be just a little bit vulnerable, to put things out there that maybe I'm a little uncomfortable sharing, as they're definitely not my best moments, but this is the only way that I'm able to communicate to others the way that I'm feeling.


Sometimes, I go through some really rough patches and then cover them up and don't talk about them because I'm not strong enough to be vulnerable towards others. But in the meantime, I'm going through my rough patches feeling alone, feeling like there's no one to help me or guide me through them. So what I'm trying to say is that sometimes we have this sense of loneliness, but we're just too afraid to reach out and call out to someone. But in order for you to have someone to guide you through your rough patches, they need to know that you need help. In order to get through this feeling of loneliness in the world, you have to be willing to be just a little bit vulnerable and have the courage to admit that you're going through a rough patch so that you can find others that might be going through the same thing.

Extension: Ted Talk on The Power of Vulnerability

If you're feeling a sense of loneliness in the world, remember that you are never truly alone. I guarantee you that there is someone else out there in the world who is struggling with the same problem as you are. And it's always nice to have a friend, someone who you can rant to about all of your frustration, let out all of that pent up sadness with, someone that you can share your struggles with. When you're drowning in a sea of negativity, sometimes all you need is someone else to help keep you afloat, and maybe you can help each other stay afloat.

Reaching out is the hardest part to do, but sometimes it's worth it. If you're feeling like you want to talk to someone or like no one understands, for me, it's easier to talk to people that I don't have to actually see, talking to people on the internet. I don't know why I find it so much easier to talk to people that I barely know, maybe it's because I know that if I talk about my struggles with them, I never have to actually see them look me in the eye, but for some reason, I find it easier to open up on the internet. If you do too, you can always feel free to send me an email or a private message on social media and we can chat. The Peter Pan Diaries may have been created in order for me to reach you about my struggles and my beliefs in my teenage "growing up" years, but that doesn't mean that you can't tell me about your experiences and beliefs as well. We can keep each other afloat.

Let's talk about it, because you're not alone.

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2 comments:

  1. Wow.
    This post is absolutely amazing, and I read it right when I think I needed to hear this most. So powerful. Lately with being pregnant and being away from my boyfriend for the next few months I've felt so alone. It's hard to keep stay strong and positive when I'm literally alone. But this post helped me a lot. So thank you.

    If you ever need to talk as well, I'm here.

    xoxo Lex // LexMeetsWorld

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    1. You can get through this! I believe in you!
      Rebecca xo

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