Happiness seems like a simple concept, but is it really? Recently I've been finding myself to be a lot happier. Obviously I have good days and bad days, but overall, I've been feeling better about my life and who I am. In the past few years, I feel like I've really changed for the better in terms of my confidence levels and also what I'm doing with my life. Obviously I haven't gotten to the true key to happiness, in fact, I'm not even sure if one exists, but these are little things that I've found have contributed a lot to my current happiness. 

The Key to Happiness

Accepting yourself.

This means that you learn to love yourself exactly how you are. Whether it's something physical, like your body shape and size, or it's something mental, like it's your introverted traits. Once you reach self-acceptance, you'll be able to stop caring about what other people think about you (for the most part) and feel happier about yourself and be comfortable with who you are. I know, it sounds simple, but it’s so difficult. However, this all starts with self-acceptance and self-love. Learning to love yourself is essential to your overall happiness. If you don’t love yourself, who will? After I learned to accept myself in terms of who I am physically and who I am in terms of personality, I have begun to be an overall happier person because I have learned to become comfortable with myself. People come and go, but I'll always be with myself, so if I don't accept myself now, then when will I ever?

Step out of your comfort zone.

While it may seem a little scary in the moment, stepping out of your comfort zone will benefit you in the long run. I feel like stepping out of my comfort zone has really helped me to become more confident. One example of this was my stage fright. In the past, I had horrible stage fright and I couldn't even get through short speeches. I forced myself to try out new things that encouraged public speaking and now I'm finding myself being a lot more comfortable in front of crowds. Sure, I'm not in a rush to get up on stage and speak, but I'm learning to get over that fear that would have otherwise plagued me. In addition, there are lots of little things that you can do to step out of your comfort zone that can help you explore the endless possibilities that life offers. You don't have to go skydiving to be a risk taker, take small steps out of safety and explore what's outside. Join a club, talk to a new person, learn a new skill, anything that challenges what you're used to. I've learned to be okay with being a little bit uncomfortable at times, but that's okay. I'm taking things one step at a time until they become comfortable and they become the new normal.

Surrounding yourself with friends worth keeping.

Sometimes I've found myself wanting to be friends with more people just for the sake of having more people to chat with and not being so lonely all the time. However, I've learned that all that really matters is having good friends that you feel like you can do anything with. In my lifetime, I've had a lot of toxic friendships that really put a damper on my happiness. Now, I'm learning to branch out and not to stick with people just because it feels safe, but to venture out from the safety blanket of friends that I've had for ages and into the new world. For example, I had a few friends that had been my friends for as long as I could remember, but eventually I realized that they weren't really healthy relationships, but I felt trapped, because you can't really walk away from an old friend. I slowly drifted away and honestly, I think that it was probably for the better. Surround yourself with people that make you a better version of yourself. You know what they say, you are a combination of your closest friends. So surround yourself with people that help you bloom, not droop down.

Being comfortable alone.

Building off of the previous point, while it's nice to have friends that will always have your back, you need to learn how to be comfortable alone. Go out on a date with yourself or throw a party for one, whatever that will make you learn to love spending time with yourself. It's similar to the first point about self-acceptance, being comfortable without the shield of friends protecting you can really make you more happy. I used to depend more on my friends for my happiness. By that, I mean that I tried to constantly surround myself with friends, because if not, then I would look like a "loner." However, I don't care as much as I used to about that. While I may be alone, I'm not lonely. My own company is more than enough to make me happy.

Take charge of your life. 

I used to be a "go with the flow" kind of person. And I still am. But the thing that changed was that I stopped letting that hold me back. If you don't take charge of your life, then how do you expect your dreams to come true? I took charge of my life by creating this blog. It was definitely out of my comfort zone, but it leads me one step closer to where I want to be. And although I don't necessarily know where I'm going, I do know that this is a step in the right direction. While it may feel like everyone and everything is holding you back, sometimes the only thing holding you back is yourself. Take charge of your life and create the life that you'd imagined. This is your life and you are going to make it incredible in every way possible.

Obviously, no one can be permanently happy. Life is always going up and down like a rollercoaster, but I want to make my life something that I will look back on and smile about. I don't want to spend it being unhappy about who I am, unhappy about what I'm doing, or unhappy about where I'm going. It's true, happiness is not a simple concept, but I'm going to make the most of it with what I can. So while these may not be exactly the key to happiness, it's definitely a step into the right direction and that's the road that I want to take. 


  1. Lovely post Rebecca,
    I have also cam to the realization that the people we surround us with is so important.
    I have also came to a place where I am so happy to by myself and I would not trade it with anyone else :)

    When I was younger I always tried to be someone I knew or saw on TV but all that have changed as I have matured and I could not ask for a better life :) Of course some days are better than the other ;)


    1. I did the same, I used to try to be someone that looked like they had it all, but now I'm beginning to let go of that and stop comparing myself to others.

  2. You always have such insightful posts..Thanks for sharing!