For a long time before actually starting a blog, I had the idea in the back of my mind that it was something that I wanted to do. I loved the idea of it, getting to share your ideas and be creative. I've always been super connected to the Internet, I had been reading blogs for quite a long time (fun fact: Carly was one of the first bloggers that I discovered!) and it was something that I dreamed about. So why didn't I start sooner? Why didn't I just right into it if I knew that it was something that I wanted to do? The answer to that was doubt. I doubted myself.

The thing about starting a blog is that it really puts you out there. I had a million reasons why I shouldn't do it. I said to myself, you're too young, wait until you're a bit older, or I said, no one would read it. I think that my biggest set-back was excuses. I don't really know what changed, but I think that one day I just decided to step out of my comfort zone and go after it. The only thing that was holding me back was myself. I doubted what I was capable of and honestly, I wish that I hadn't. 

I wrote a guest post on Blogger Babes a while ago and I wrote this one part that really resonated with me. "Eventually, I realized that there was no point in waiting. Yes, I may have had my whole life ahead of me, but what’s life without following your dreams?" I think that this little bit best describes my change of heart. I still can't believe that I wrote that, because honestly that is that best advice that I could have ever given. The thing about following your dreams is that just because you can think of a million excuses doesn't mean that you should put it off. Time flies and before you know it, it'll be too late. Don't let that happen to you. 

I think it is important to have dreams, and with that, to take risks. I don’t have a particular moment in mind, and I think that is in part because I often hold my own self back - it is something I really need to work on! I think that it’s important (although such a cliche) to do something as often as you can that takes you out of your own comfort zone. It’s advice I shell out and have so much trouble taking, but it truly is something that is necessary to live a full life. 
- Jamie Eimbinder (Fashion Newcomer)

The thing about dreams is that they seem so big and unrealistic that we assume that they're unattainable. They're just dreams, they're not actually going to come true. I'm just going to be blunt, that's not true. While dreams may seem like they're out of reach, the truth is that there's nothing that you can't do. Okay, maybe witchcraft, hopefully, but the point is that anything is possible, as tacky as it sounds. I saw this quote on Pinterest and I loved it. 

I bet that half of the people that see this quote immediately think, "Oh, it's another cheesy inspirational quote." I know a lot of people that absolutely hate inspirational quotes. However, quotes like this speak the truth and I'm glad that they do. Dreams are scary. They seem terrifyingly impossible, like a task that's so enormous that it can never be fulfilled. Either that, or it's the fear of failure. We're so worried about dreams to the point that we end up never pursuing them. We let them scare us away. However, isn't the tiniest possibility of "making it" a million times better than no chance? Guess what? By not following your dream, you're eliminating any chance of it coming true. I believe that you should put yourself out there. Go for it. The worst thing that can happen is that you don't succeed. If you don't try, that will automatically happen. The best thing that can happen, even if you think you don't even have a chance, is that you can succeed. You can be that person that tells the story of how your dreams came true. 

It all starts with taking that first step, even if it's more of a leap. While your doubts may hold you back, your passion will be what rescues you whenever you fall. When in doubt, let go of those doubts.

But how do we let go of those doubts?

one // remind yourself about your passions. 

Sometimes we get so caught up in how unattainable the dream is that we forget what we're pursuing and why we're pursuing it. I think that sometimes it's okay to get caught up in the fantasy of it. The fantasy is what reminds us what we're working towards. As long as you know what you have to do to make that fantasy reality, then it's okay to get a little dreamy sometimes. Get lost in your passion and stop thinking too much about being realistic. This is what you're working for and why. That itself should be enough to get you off your feet.

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two // just go for it. 

Stop thinking and start doing. I think that the most difficult part is simply starting your journey. It always seems like such a daunting task that we tend to over-complicate things, when in reality, all you need to do is get up and go for it. Sometimes, that's all you need. There have been times where I've just taken the plunge and they've had amazing turnouts. Remember that once you get started, the most difficult part is over.

three // work on self-love.

I know, it kind of seems like my answer to everything is self-love, but that's because it's so powerful. In order to stop doubting yourself, you have to start trusting yourself. Have some confidence in what you're capable of, because let me tell you, it's a lot more than you think. Don't underestimate yourself. Learning to realize your true capabilities comes with learning to appreciate yourself. This means that you make yourself happier by doing things just for yourself, shaking the fear of failure, and basically realizing how awesome you are. Some say it's haughty or arrogant, which it kind of is, but it's healthy to have that self-appreciation. Obviously there is a such thing as too much, but don't let that scare you from loving yourself. Remember that you are your biggest critic. The onlything holding you back is you.

What are your dreams and how do you plan to pursue them?

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