Coming up on this Tuesday, is Valentine's Day. Some call it the day of love, while others call it singles awareness day. However, I like to make Valentine's Day all about me. Valentine's Day has some very negative and positive connotations, some people love it, some people hate it. I personally am not a huge fan of Valentine's Day in the terms of romance, but I love to use it as an opportunity to remind myself about all the good things about myself or to use it as an opportunity to give appreciation to friends. In this post, I'm using the holiday as an opportunity to give myself some self-care, some self-love. So today, I'm writing a love letter. To myself.

I think that over the past few years, I've been slowly realizing the importance of learning how to love myself. All my life I've been striving to make myself loved and appreciated by others. I strive to fit in. I strive to be accepted. But the thing that I've learned recently is that I can't expect to be loved, to be appreciated, until I learn to love myself. I originally wanted to do something like how I always do my posts. With lots of personal experiences, encouragement, and sprinkles of advice. However, I wanted to do something different. Something all about me. Maybe it seems a little narcissistic, but I quite frankly don't care. Inspired by a very Rupi Kaur in Milk and Honey -esque kind of thing, plus seeing what Kate (we're collaborating! she did a love letter to herself as well! and I love it!), I've decided to do somewhat of a poem. So, here it goes:

Dear Rebecca,

You are strong. 
You are thoughtful. 
You are creative. 
You are smart. 
You are determined. 
You are balanced.
You are kind.

You are loved.

I love that you can be a strong, independent woman.
I love that you stand in your convictions.
I love that you try to see the perspectives of others.
I love that you try to step out of your comfort zone
I love that you respect your comfort zone.
I love that you put your heart into everything that you do.
I love that you're a dreamer.
I love that you're realistic.
I love that you're an introvert.
I love that you're still sometimes talkative and like an extrovert.

I love the little things about you.

You have your ups,
but you have your downs.
You smile,
but you cry.
You have good days,
but you have bad ones.
You have your flaws,

But this is a part of who you are.

You try to see the positive sides of things.
You forgive and move on.
You wipe away the tears.
You learn from your mistakes.
You don't let them stop you.
You continue.

You look to new adventures.

I love that you change.
I love that you grow.
I love that your ideas progress.
I love that you stay true to yourself.
I love that you learn.
I love that you're learning to love yourself.

I love you.

And that's my little love letter poem kind of thing. It's definitely a little bit different from my normal kind of writing, but you know what? Different can be good. Change can be good sometimes. It's so important to appreciate yourself. To learn to love the little things about yourself, whether it's externally, or internally. In my love letter to myself, I wanted to focus on the good things, but I still did acknowledge some of my weaknesses. I'm selfish sometimes. I'm sad sometimes. But part of learning to love yourself is also learning to deal with some of your weaknesses. Although sometimes we like to gloss over all of the things that we might feel uncomfortable with, I want to be able to love myself entirely, even the little flaws that might feel uncomfortable.

This is a collaboration with Kate (Simply by Kate), because we both love ourselves and plan to make the most of this Valentine's Day with self-appreciation. I encourage you to join us, and write your own love letter to yourself. Maybe write it down in a journal, jot down a few things that you love about yourself, or better yet, post it online and share it with us! Because you are loved this Valentine's Day, even if you don't realize it yet. Be your own Valentine! Have a self love day, eat all the chocolate, and write a little love letter to yourself. You can write it in any way that you want. You can write a diary-type letter, or something more like mine, with a poetic style to it. If you end up writing a love letter to yourself, I would love if you sent a picture to me on social media, maybe Twitter or Instagram. Let's make this Valentine's Day a fantastic one, full of love. 

View Kate's post here!


  1. This was so lovely! It's so important to love yourself and we should all love ourselves a little bit more. This post was inspiring and beautiful x

    1. Yes! It's so important to love yourself! Hope that you get a chance to enjoy time with yourself this Valentine's Day!
      Rebecca xo