I love inspirational quotes. You might see them hanging around on my Twitter or my Pinterest and that's because I love that they promote positivity and a growth-mindset. It's really hard to stay positive all the time and sometimes you just need reminders. However, there are also times that the inspirational quotes aren't enough for me, that things just seem so bad. Those are the times that I contemplate mentioning them, but at the same time, I don't want to promote a negative mindset for someone else. I know that a lot of people don't like inspirational quotes, saying that they're cheesy and superficial. And I get that, because yes, sometimes they can be so positive that they gloss over the bad and just straight to the good. So here are some things that the inspirational quotes don't tell you, mostly about getting through the rough times and how you can actually do that. 

One // Mistakes won't always be easy to fix.

What the quotes say: Learn from your mistakes, it's about how you correct your mistakes, mistakes are happy little accidents...

Mistakes are absolutely inevitable and inspirational quotes recognize that. However, all of them focus on life after the mistake. The thing is, you will make mistakes and I bet you it'll be a mess. Yeah, things will get better, but in the moment, things might seem grim, like there's just a huge mess that you don't even know how to tackle. It's like those scenarios when you ask someone to maybe spray out some whipped cream or squeeze out a tube of toothpaste and then ask them to make it go back to the way that it was before, knowing full well that it is impossible. The thing about mistakes is that although you know that things will get better, living in them and struggling to fix what seems like an unfixable mess will not be easy. And that's normal. Life is hard. But sometimes you just have to tackle things one by one. 

Two // It's okay to not be positive all the time.

What the quotes say: Believe you can and you're halfway there. - T. Roosevelt

I think that one of the reasons why people don't like inspirational quotes is that they aren't always something instantly attainable. Yes, it is true that if you keep a positive mindset, you can grow and improve much more. However, it's not always easy to be positive like that. I think it's okay to have off days, to not be like the inspirational quotes, always seeing a good side of things. It's natural to be sad sometimes, to lose hope. However, what the quotes do help with is not staying with that negative mentality. While it's okay to not be positive all the time, its not healthy to be negative all the time. Rough times are natural, but you can't let your whole life be a rough time. 

Three // A good cry can sometimes be everything.

What the quotes say: Don't ruin today by thinking about a bad yesterday. Let it go.

Again, this quote is absolutely great advice. However, sometimes people get so caught up in not letting things get to them that they're too afraid to be sad or to be angry or upset. We get caught up in the mindset that "I can't afford to cry over this, I need to move on," throwing ourselves into other things in order to not let the past negatively affect the future. However, by avoiding the problem, it can still be somewhat harmful. It's okay to be sad. Sometimes a good cry can solve everything, although it may not magically fix your problems, it will help you to move on and to let your emotions out instead of keeping them inside, trying desperately not to let it get to you. 

Four // Dreams take a ton of work and you have to be willing to put in the effort.

What the quotes say: If you can dream, it you can do it.

Inspirational quotes give off the idea that you can do anything that you put your mind to. And that's absolutely true, but what inspirational quotes don't always acknowledge is that there is a ton of work into making dreams reality. When you go after your dream, you will have ups and you will have downs. Things won't always be an upward path towards success. While you can do anything that you want to do, you can't just have the want, but you also need the ambition. You need to be willing and able to work hard for this, to deal with the hard times. Essentially, it isn't whether or not you can dream it, but rather it's whether or not you want it enough to really work for it, in good times and in bad. 

Five // Taking breaks and refreshing are okay, as long as you don't lose your vision of your goal.

What the quotes say: Even the smallest steps move you forward. - Oprah Winfrey

Quotes often suggest that you should always keep moving forward, closer toward your goal, even if it's just the tiniest bit of progress. However, sometimes you hit roadblocks. And that's okay. I think that often, when we hit a bump, we're so focused on moving forward that we drain our energy trying to get past a barrier that's too much to handle. Sometimes, it's okay to take a break, to refresh. Breaks can help you rethink and remember what you're working towards. I think that for me, they often energize me to work harder, even if it is a little later, because I'll become inspired instead of discouraged. If you keep forcing yourself to step forward when you just don't have the heart for it, you'll lose sight of your goal and lose motivation. Sometimes taking a break can help you sprint towards it, offering new clarity. 

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