A Message If You're Scared of the Future

The future scares me. It's all unknown, but at the same time, it's already entirely written out. I know about the big milestones that stand in my future, but I don't know how I'm going to get there and if I'm ready for them to happen. The future is a scary place and if you're scared of the future like I am, here's a message for you.

Just because you don't feel ready for something, doesn't mean that you aren't prepared and capable of taking it on. 

I remember in my sophomore year of high school, I was nervous about starting my junior year. People always said that junior year was the worst year and that it would be when things really get stressful. I was scared to take on all of those things; I thought that I just wasn't ready. However, when I started the next school year, I found that it wasn't so different and while it was more challenging, I could still handle it and I was still capable of doing these more complex research papers and projects.

This situation reminded me of a quote that I saw online: "Great people do things before they're ready." 

I believe that this quote does hold some truth, but also some faults. The idea of readiness is meant to help you gauge what you can and cannot do: what is possible for you and to prevent you from risk. Therefore in some situations, not doing things before you're ready ensures your safety.

However, on the other hand, doing things before you're ready can encourage you to get out of your comfort zone and potentially do amazing things. While it's risky, it has a chance to pay off. Sometimes you won't feel ready, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you aren't. Consider your fear of not being ready, but also consider taking a leap every now and then because you are capable of amazing things and you might not discover that if you let yourself play it safe all the time.

If things go wrong, you always have a chance to change things. 

I feel like when we make plans for the future, me included, we feel that our decisions today will remain permanent for the rest of our lives. However, it is possible to change your mind and to change the outcome.

Some of the best things can come out of terrible situations. 

It sounds cliche and at times I don't really believe it, but I know that it is true. This is something that is a huge theme in the Hindsight personal growth series (check it out, you won't regret it!) because I believe that it's worth considering.

The future is partially scary because of the fear that you will do something wrong that will make your future a mess. It's scary to me because I fear that I'll make the wrong choices today and it'll make my future self unhappy. However, one thing that I always need to remind myself is that I will make mistakes. And it's natural. But one thing that I need to remember is that the negative repercussions of mistakes are not permanent. 

Between now and this vast future that you're imagining, you will grow and you will change. While things may be scary now, in a few years, they might not be.

When I was younger, my parents suggested moving so that my sister would be able to go to a better high school with stronger academic programs. It wasn't far away, but it would mean that I would have to change schools. At that time, I felt like it was the end of the world. I couldn't imagine leaving my friends and having to start over in a brand new school.

When I went to high school, I was given the same choice: stay in the academic program that I was already in or switch to a different program that would be away from my childhood friends and everything that I was familiar with.

While years ago, my decision would have been to stick with familiarity, my mentality changed. 

I wanted to have a stronger academic future and I was open to going to a new school. As I grew up, the idea of a brand new school was much less scary than it was in the past. In fact, it was kind of exciting.

The point of this story is that with time, you can change. You will learn and grow as a person and in time, that scary future that you're envisioning might not be as scary anymore.

So what do you do if you're scared of the future?

Personally, I feel that no matter what I do or say, I will always be a little bit scared of the future. These ideas presented throughout the post are absolutely true and I try to remind myself of them, but they don't always permanently ease my worries. I'm always scared of it until it becomes reality and then at that point, I'm worried about the next immediate moment in my near future.

I think that while you can't do much to banish those worries, you can try to alleviate your fears a little with some reality checks like the ones mentioned in the post. I feel like these are things that we all know and sometimes ignore.

While I wish that I could give you some kind of magical potion that would make those worries disappear, there's really not much that you can do except push yourself out of your comfort zone and start tackling your future as it becomes reality. Take it day by day, because you'll find that reality seems a lot less scary than the future. 

A Message If You're Scared of the Future

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